The quiet shock of university life in Bangladesh

For thousands of students in Bangladesh, gaining admission to a prestigious university is the culmination of years of relentless effort. Whether it is Dhaka University, BUET, Jahangirnagar, BRAC, or North South University, an offer letter carries enormous emotional weight. These students were the ones teachers praised, classmates admired, and families held up as examples. Academic success was not just something they did but it also became a core part of who they were.

Then university begins, and something unexpected happens.

The student who was once the best in the class suddenly becomes one among many equally talented people. The difference in admission scores between peers is often tiny. Almost everyone sitting in that lecture hall carries the same history of top marks and family pride. Grades may stay good, but the sense of being exceptional quietly disappears, and many students are not prepared for how much that changes things.

Educational psychologists describe this through what is called the Big-Fish-Little-Pond Effect. The idea is straightforward: people judge their abilities by comparing themselves to those around them. A student who stands out in a smaller environment feels confident in that setting. When that same student enters a highly competitive institution full of equally capable peers, their confidence can fall even though their actual ability has not changed at all. The pond simply got bigger.

For many students, the challenge is not only academic. It is also deeply personal. For years, they were “the topper,” “the brilliant one,” “the future success story”. University life removes that special status, often without warning. Students who once enjoyed recognition find themselves anonymous members of a much larger community, and the loss of that familiar identity brings frustration, self-doubt, and anxiety. Research bears this out: a study conducted across 50 universities in Bangladesh found that 81.5 per cent of respondents felt mental pressure after admission, and 83.3 per cent were concerned about their mental health, a reality that often goes unnoticed and undiscussed.

Part of the problem is that many students arrive with expectations that do not match what awaits them. They imagine freedom, prestige, and a clear path toward success. These things are genuinely on offer, but the reality is more complicated. Freshers studying in graduation level must learn to manage their own time, build new friendships, adapt to unfamiliar teaching methods, and make significant decisions independently, often while living away from home for the first time.

The challenge tends to be sharper for students who come from outside Dhaka or from smaller towns.

The students we spoke to described this experience honestly. Azwan (pseudonym), a third-year student at Dhaka University pursuing a BSS degree, recalled: "When I first came to Dhaka, some of my classmates who had grown up in the city used to joke that students from outside Dhaka were simply outsiders. They probably did not mean serious harm, but hearing it repeatedly made it difficult to feel that I truly belonged."

Their accounts point to something broader than individual unkindness. University campuses bring together students from widely different backgrounds, and differences in social class, language, and cultural experience shape how people interact. Some students feel excluded or quietly judged not because of their academic ability but because of where they come from. Adapting to university life frequently involves learning new social rules alongside academic content, and that second layer of adjustment rarely gets the attention it deserves.

Homesickness, loneliness, accommodation difficulties, and financial pressure compound all of this. A survey we conducted among university students aged 19 to 22 found that many believed their school and college education had not fully prepared them for emerging career opportunities. Most were satisfied with their earlier educational experiences in general, but felt that important practical and professional skills had been overlooked along the way.

There is also an uncomfortable realisation that tends to arrive sometime in the first year: that a university degree alone is no longer sufficient in today's competitive job market. For students whose identities have long been built around examination results and grades, this can be particularly unsettling. The finish line they worked towards for years turns out to be a starting point.

As students progress through university, however, most do find their footing. They begin to understand that success is not limited to examination scores. Many start exploring student organisations, volunteering, research, debating, entrepreneurship, internships, and leadership opportunities, finding confidence in spaces that examinations never offered. Friendships and social support matter enormously in this process.

The quiet shock of first-year university life is about far more than academic adjustment. It touches on identity, belonging, mental health, and uncertainty about the future. Feeling average in a room full of talented people does not mean a student has become less capable. Helping them adapt and genuinely thrive once they arrive is, perhaps, the more important challenge still waiting to be fully met.

Progya Paromita Karmakar and Ashfa Binta Latif are undergraduate students of Criminology in Dhaka University.

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